Sunday, April 29, 2012

Trials!!!!

I now understand what people mean by the first year of marriage is one of the hardest. Gabe and I have been married for almost a year now. I have to say that more things have happened in this last year then in my entire life. When we got married I was so caught up in happiness, joy and love that I never thought about the future. With Gabe not being a citizen we faced legal trials. We had to fork out tons of money, tons of paperwork and tons of waiting. In the beginning I would find myself discouraged, depressed, sad and even tired. I knew at some point we would get through this. That somehow things were going to be alright. 6 long months later there was light at the end of the tunnel. We had made it together we had gotten passed the worst or so I thought. I began to feel relieved that Gabe was now a resident, that I no longer had to worry about the government taking him away from me. Our life then began to go down the smooth path. Suddenly we are back on the rough path. It's rocky, it's scary, it's depressing, and most of all it's hard. I know that somehow someway things are going to be alright. That we can make it together. For the time being the feelings of being depressed, discouraged, sad and even tired have all come back. I think that often times we as human beings have an image of what our life should be like. And when things don't turn out the way that you have visioned, we ask why???? I have asked myself this question for the last few weeks and I have yet to find the answer. I am not sure if we ever do find the answer to that question.  I have heard the saying a lot lately "God won't give you anything you can't handle." I know this situation is temporary, but sometimes I don't know if I can handle it.
       I am not sure how non-members of the church handle trials. I know that my faith, my prayers, and my understanding of Heavenly Father gives me comfort. There have been times in my life that my faith and prayers have not been the greatest. There are times when I am so discouraged that I have a tendency to forget about faith and prayer. When I stop to think about the entire world instead of just myself. There are several people out there that have trials ten times worse than Gabe and I. I am so so so grateful for my family. They are the greatest blessings that I have ever been given. I know that no matter where I am, no matter what I am doing they will always be there for me. I know that sometimes trial seem like an eternity but to Heavenly Father, they are just a moment in time and we can get through it.

1 comment:

  1. I am sorry you are going through a hard time. It does get easier- well sort of. Marriage itself gets easier but will always have its ups and downs. Trials will come and go. Continue to stay close to the Lord and go to the Temple together. Everything happens for a reason and "sometimes God calms the storm and sometimes he lets the storm rage and calms his child." This year seems like it has been the hardest one for us so far with family illnesses and Drey recently lost his job etc. But, I know things will work out. Thank you for posting this. It feels good to know I am not alone in feeling this way. Keep your head up!

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